Sunday, March 08, 2026

We do not associate with ...because...

I'm currently attending Faith Lutheran Church in Shelton, WA, and today during the message I heard the phrase "...we do not associate with..." Here are a few reflections about that phrase. 

Men do not associate with women because…

Fancy people do not associate with ordinary people because...

Neurodivergent people do not associate with neurotypical people because…

White people do not associate with black people because…

Heterosexual people do not associate with homosexual people because…

Housed people do not associate with houseless people because...

Democrats do not associate with Republicans because…

Conservatives do not associate with progressives because…

Baptists do not associate with Lutherans, or Catholics, or Methodists, or Adventists, or Mennonites because...

The law does not associate with Love because…

Love does not associate with hate because…

Jews do not associate with Samaritans because...

Thursday, August 17, 2023

resist

 

A friend asked, “A small group of people, mostly men, make decisions big and small that shape the world we live in. These decisions lock us into systems governed by greed and power. We have our voices, our minds, the ability to resist, and each other. How can we best use these to remain as free as we can?”

 
Below are some of Matt's thoughts, based on his readings, observations, experiences and just thinking about things..

 

The words below assume you already agree with the question in quotes above. If you do not agree with the question, you may find some of these words offensive or they won't make sense to you, or they'll make you mad because they will challenge what you currently think about the world or yourself, and that's good. It's a good thing to read about or experience different viewpoints of life..

 

I guess the one thing to think about is: be aware. Be aware of what is happening around you. Seek out good, reliable, verifiable information. You might also want to consider spending less time on social media, and more time reading educational things to learn more about this world in which you live.
https://hbl.gcc.libguides.com/research/credible

 

Our current dominant economic system is capitalism. Marketing, advertising and salespeople have an array of sneaky and not so sneaky ways to get people to buy things. Here are a few things to consider.

bmediagroup.com/news/subconscious-advertising
https://www.businessinsider.com/9-sneaky-psychology-tricks-companies-use-to-get-you-to-buy-stuff-2016-2

 

Who benefits from capitalism? I would say, from my experience, the people that have the most money benefit the most from the capitalist system. My suggestion would be to find ways to disrupt or stop the flow of money, even if it is only your flow of money being stopped. (on a bigger scale, large groups of people change their buying habits and companies may or may not take notice). A fair bit in these articles talk about DIY…do it yourself. Don’t go out and buy something, when the something can be made, designed, cooked, or created using your personal creativity, skills, and persevernce.

Fighting, or at least living decently with capitalism:
dns-tvind.dk/fightingcapitalism

treehugger.com/ways-reject-capitalism-your-personal-life-4858387

 

Education.. started as a way to educate people for the factories. Not much self-thinking or critical thinking.. not a lot of progress since then, although a lot of fancy words..

Book to consider: The Book of Learning and Forgetting, Frank Smith

 

Greed.. COVID..but prices just go up up up.. who benefits the most? Well..
brookings.edu/articles/profits-and-the-pandemic-as-shareholder-wealth-soared-workers-were-left-behind

theglobalist.com/covid-greed-pandemic-rich-corruption-banks

 

Divisiveness and polarization.. especially more now with computer algorithms controlling social media feeds. What to do? Short version: turn off, uninstall, delete all your social media. If that’s not possible..consider:
socialmediatoday.com/news/social-media-fuels-division-and-angst-but-solving-the-underlying-issues-a/616881

bushcenter.org/catalyst/creating-more-perfect-union/webb-social-media-key-in-fighting-polarization

 

I think the divisiveness is meant to dehumanize humans. Re-humanizing, at least to me, means (re) connecting with people you may or may not know.. maybe you're close your relatives, maybe with friends, maybe with acquaintances, maybe with complete strangers.. look them in the eye if you're able. Shake their hand, fist bump, high five, give them a hug, talk..connect..ideally in person, not on social media.

Whatever antonym of divisiveness you want to use, use it in big and small ways, public and private..

Magazine that helps Matt remember the humanity of things: The Sun Magazine.

Specific article: thesunmagazine.org/issues/110/connection

 

And when you are outraged about things happening in life..
cambridge.org/core/search?q=growing+outrage (should be an article called “Growing Outrage”)

If you’ve read this far, thank you. Hopefully you have some ideas about how to better exist in our current system of things. I didn’t hyperlink the web site links I included…I ran out of time..maybe linked in the future? All links working as of 8/17/23.

Peace..

Matt

 

 

 

Saturday, May 26, 2018

The Other


"The Other"

Reflections on the Bridging Our Divide Dialogue event Friday May 18, 2018 in Olympia, WA
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This writing includes a word study, a couple of song references, a picture, and riddle.

Other (n)  A person or group of people viewed as intrinsically different from and alien to oneself.

Bridge (n)  to shorten a gap.
 
Divide (v)  disagree or cause to disagree.

The word “other” was in one of the questions on a discussion sheet used at an event that was held recently in Olympia, WA.


I don’t usually write out thoughts (or share them) because working at a school and marriage takes many of my waking hours. I had a day off due to a job interview, so I found a quiet place in the forest and wrote down thoughts that wouldn’t leave my head since the event. I know this may be a picky, small thing to write about, but I have experienced how just one word that is read or heard can change a person’s perception about themselves or people around them.


In my opinion, the word “other” does not contribute to bridging any divides. I think about how current politics, or at least what I read and hear of it, seem to be polarizing. People can have their own opinion, as this is an opinion piece, but getting angry and even unfriending people on the infamous Facebook. Coming together in person to calmly talk about differences is important. 

We are all one people—well, at least I believe that from what I have seen and experienced in life. The song by Mandisa says we all bleed the same. How can we bleed the same, yet have so many different and many times opposite (sometimes angry) viewpoints on life?

I see the world not getting physically smaller, but more people entering this grand stage we call earth. I believe we need less of the “other” and more of the “we” if life as we know it is going to continue. Our children and grandchildren are counting on this. 

I believe that including a question on the discussion list using the word “other” does not help bridge any divides between people present in the room—the “progressives” and “conservatives.” My understanding of the Bridging Our Divide event was to physically bring together people who claim to be “progressive” and “conservative." I had very engaging conversations with people at two different tables, but progressive or conservative was never explicitly identified on each person. I appreciated that--not stereotyping.

This writing was just an exploration and reflection of what my reaction to the word “other” has been. Remove the word “other” from the questions in the discussion list? I don’t know if that would do anything to help the bridging efforts, but I appreciate the event and would probably attend another one if it should happen in the Olympia area in the future.
Now the riddle. What always ends everything?

Interesting web site that tries to give both “sides” of a news story
www.allsides.com

Bridging Our Divide web site
www.bridgingourdivide.org


Comments, feedback, suggestions, gripes are welcomed and encouraged. Thanks.

Thursday, February 02, 2006

Hiding the nonProfit and forProfit agendas

I am reading a report titled Hidden Agendas. It talks about stereotypes in corporate -community partnerships. It's very interesting to me.
Here are a few excerpts that really struck me:
"[the executive is thinking] "there are too many of them to save...I'm taking care of my own."
"The concept of salesperson as "problem solver" is not readily understood by nonprofit leaders."

Download the report here:
http://www.lgicommunications.com/corporate/PublicationsPortfolio/HAindex.htm

Friday, June 25, 2004

first post..

this is my first post on thoughts about cities, community, and society
my thoughts will be in italics